Do you ever feel that life is happening to you and you are just reacting to situations day in and day out in a never-ending cycle of frustration? Feelings can be aggravating if we don’t know what to do with them. But feelings can be helpful if we know how to listen to them, respect them, and act upon them.
Have you ever stopped to think about all the things in life we learn about?
Physically we learn how to eat nutritiously for our bodies to function at an optimal level, we learn what exercises work best for us, and what can damage and harm our bodies. We read websites, books, and magazines, see doctors, go to spas, join health clubs, and weight loss groups. We understand that it is important to educate ourselves and put that information into action if we want to take care of our bodies.
Mentally we educate ourselves on work, hobbies, or other areas of interest. We attend schools, trade schools, colleges, doctoral programs, and continuing education programs to stay abreast in our fields of work. We read books, blogs, magazines, and take special classes or attend seminars to learn about our special interests.
For people wanting to gain awareness of spiritual matters, they also read books, magazines, and Internet sites; they may attend church, go to schools of theology, and spend time in prayer and praise to enlarge their understanding of faith.
These all seem to be reasonable efforts to achieve growth and understanding in the physical, mental, and spiritual realms. Now ask yourself how much time and energy you have put into your emotional growth and development.
How did you learn to deal with your emotions? Watching family and friends interact is one way and if these people had good emotional skills, then you may have learned how to deal with emotions very well. For most of us, the emotional skills we learned in childhood do not carry well into adulthood and this is where many problems arise. So many times we think that relationship skills and the emotional side of our lives are just supposed to happen as in a fairytale: And they lived happily ever after…. But when no one teaches us how to do that, broken homes and damaged relationships are a common result.
If you choose to put the time and effort into your emotional development, you can achieve the goals you set for yourself in relationships, just like the physical, mental, and spiritual goals you have for your life. Begin now. Come see Ann and get started on achieving the life you want and deserve!